Hello everyone! I need my mentors and friends to please speak up here. I would love to hear your thoughts on screens and media.
Media means to "me"- Movies, shows, games, cellphone surfing, blogging, pinterest, social media outlets
A little about us on this subject. We do not have cable, Netflix, Pureflix, satellite, or any other outside source on our television. We do have Amazon Prime and we occasionally will watch movies on our laptop that way or watch on PBS.org the current Masterpiece shows. We do have a collection of family friendly movies, we use the library dvd's, and an occasionally treat to Redbox ONLY for a DECENT FILM which is rare.
We allowed our children to play games with moderation for years. The games had to be approved by us. We also allowed our children to watch certain youtube shows (science, Wild Krats, and gaming shows) on occasion.
We did not allow our oldest to have a cellphone until he was driving and turned 16. We have rules such as no phone at dinner time, in the bedroom at night (no matter what), and when we are out as a family having family time, and we also checked history.
BUT...IT IS A STRUGGLE! I was sick a lot last year and found myself allowing my guard to come down and they played more and more games, watching movies, and etc. All appropriate of course. But as my oldest is almost 18 I see him being sucked into his phone. Between working and school that is all he wants to do. "CHILL and Relax" he calls it. I also can't monitor what he is viewing as much. I see a pull in my other children to be swept up in this as well.
I will be honest! I also love my screen time. Blogging, researching recipes, pinterest, googling, youtube, and I can go on. I try to limit mine though. But still I am guilty of spending more than I should.
I am noticing my younger ones being sucked into this vortex of media and not using their imagination and playing as much. I look around even in our churches and everyone is on a phone. Walking in on a phone, sitting during preaching on a phone, driving on a phone, and on and on .
I remember going to a ladies church Christmas party and all the women but me and one other lady was on their phone the ENTIRE time. A little talk here and there and laughter here and there but your were competing with a screen to fellowship with them.
I see the youth today in our churches standing around with tons of teens around and literally staring at a phone. My son said this was the hardest part about not having a phone until he was 16 because he would go to church and everyone would be staring at their phone and wouldn't talk.
I am seeing a need of balance, reconstruction in our battle plan in our home to conquer this issue, and revive our lives.
Do you set yourself boundaries? Your children (even if they are grown please share what you did)?
Did you allow screen time during the week? Take a media off day? Media fasts or breaks? Set daily timers? Weekends only? Evenings only? Is it bad? Should I just chill? Am I bad person if this is our hobby? Ugh!
Tomorrow's topic- Rebellion!